Wonder Why?

Possible for someone to over power you & make you do something so totally against your wishes. Pushing you into it without you being slightly involved. I mean, when people say I didn't do it but did it 'cos I was forced to. Do they escape the fact of actually performing the act?? I guess, they don't 'cos some where they are involved. So, one can't wash his/her hands off stating I didn't. Coming to relationships, each of us have different kinds & sorts of them. I am sure, atleast one of these relationships, would be worth it & you would totally want to be part of it until your last breathe. But, what about the ones, where you are just there for namesake. A kind which doesn't leave you with much to choose or differ or contribute. A kind which works not 'cos you are a part of it but 'cos you can implement your partner's whims & fancies. Now, does it really have to be important that the protagonist in each relationship is a man or it can be woman. Specially when it comes to needs of your physical body, do you really think, one person or one individual can force you into something. I am not denying the fact, that we have heard instances where people were abused & assaulted. But, are we not forgetting all those mum situations where either one of the partner is a silent victim.

It need not be for a man or a woman, but being humans, each of us have the liberty to judge & decide what do we need to do with our body. Nothing or nobody could ever take this away from you. But, when you actually don't respect yourself, how do you think others would? How do you think someone would really bother to consider your liking or disliking. The times today, have changed but have they for good. Again, I know I am not suppose to talk about good or bad, but the only thing that I am trying to say here that, is too much liberty making us loose our morals. Have morals become a lesson that we learn in school & forget after we leave??

I wonder when people say they love some one or want to marry some one or want to live their rest of the lives with some one, what are they wanting in return?? Is there any one who would say "Nothing"? None, I guess. Each & everyone of us want to have a partner for our own set of reasons,our beliefs & aspirations. But, in this entire institution of relationships, are we taking "sex" as granted??? Are we expecting our partners to actually drool to our tunes as & when we want them to. Can a man ever be abducted without his wish or are we still thinking that it's always the woman who is abused?? I am sure many of you would say its a woman who is abused, for men it's always pleasure be by force or by choice.

But, hello people, don't you think that's being opinionated??? Yeah, it sure is. I guess, all the credit goes to our upbringing, our thought which was small as a plant & now became a tree, our ideologies which always were fed in our minds from being a child.

It's time to think again, open our eyes & realize what looks beautiful & nice from the outside might be rotten deep within. Relationships too......

Money,Money,Money

Folks,each of us work some where or the other. Either we work for ourselves or someone else. But, why do we work? Is it just to make money? How much money, enough or more or exuberant amount? Guess, most of us would say so much money that I don't have to worry about it any more. Some would say so much that I could holiday in Hawaii each year,some would say so much that I could meet my daily needs, some would say so much that I could keep my loved one happy, some would say so much that I could spoil myself once in a while. Now, there is no standard answer to how much we need? Right?

That's totally fine, as individuals,each of us have varied needs & wishes to be met by a standard amount. Almighty played it quite smart out there, by letting this be an open ended question. Wow, I sound like a typical corporate product. Anyways, in this course of making money or earning money or may be stealing it for some friends of ours who believe in stealing things rather than deserving it, are we actually missing the essence of it?? Are we actually forgetting that, money is also immaterial & it's only needed for a purpose. Purpose may be to buy something to eat, wear or live in. However, off late, thanks to the so called modernization, or may be you can say complication, people would die making money but would not live enjoying it.

I come across so many many people like that day in & day out. They have so much money yet they don't know what to do with it or the secret is they don't want to spend it. They would let it die on it's own in their safety lockers locked & preserved for ages. They might miss the fact that rodents might fill their tummies on them but would not spend it. These are one kind.

Another kind are, people who claim to help people when they need money, would even go ahead & lend it but then that would be only on sheer harsh grounds & rules. And, if you ever borrow something from someone in the family who is like that, then you are dead for life. Such people make sure that you feel at the utmost worse each time, you talk to them,each time you deal with them. Even facing them would become a huge inconvenience. And all this, 'cos they have it & you don't.

Now, by saying all this, I don't mean that all are like that. I just mean that money is not permanent. Someone who has it today might be a popper tomorrow, as nothing in life is constant, when life in itself isn't. Your parents might decide the day you are born but no one can decide the day you die. Today you might live & kicking, tomorrow you might be ashes. Thus, it becomes imperative to understand & realize that money or cash or paisa or rupaiya or wealth etc would not be there forever. It's just a means or a medium to make your life function may be a little better or good.

The worse effects are made on relationships when money gets involved. It totally depends on two parties to handle the situation, yet people at times forget the importance of the human being when it comes to money. High time we take control of money matters & relationships wisely.

One down...More coming

Another day is gonna come to an end... n this one adds on some more bitter experiences of my life.. Some one has always said it right. You should never rush into anything... specially when you know it might be risky doing it. But, as well that I know myself, I love getting into these risky situations. Don't know may be I think, that I should. Its like if some one would stop me from doing something, I would be more tempted to do it. Don't know why, but that's me. I just love getting into trouble & then coming out & then getting into another one.

Some one who claimed to be giving me a chance to prove myself & may be now I feel did it only 'cos of certain reservations or more than that expectations. Now, just 'cos things never occurred the way he/she calculated or imagined it to, you gottu bear the brunt. Fair/Unfair?? Shall leave that aside, yet, for this entire story to sink down is taking far too longer. Why?? May be the perception was different in each case. Doesn't matter, 'cos atleast one person should decide to move on... N its sort of needed & just.

But all those worlds of love, care, worry, concern, mushy adjectives, they seem fake & forgotten. Some one covering up all of it just by saying the other person is all at fault, never understands. Now, when you know that the person opposite to you, is beyond a level of understanding, in fact doesn't believe in making an effort to hear the other one out, what can one say or do?? Nothing, is the answer that?? But, would that mean you accept all of it without it being your fault or mistake or even concern.

Life offers you many such scenarios, leaves you spell bound, trust me startled & helpless to tackle such a situation. You, who think, I am in control suddenly is let down, turned over & made to realize, dude..you can never be in control. An individual who thinks, knows it all, does he actually know it ALL , everything... How can it be, when we say learning is a continuous procedure. That entire array of thoughts stands failed...

You as an individual, who has been learning & still think there is lots to, is pushed to a corner & is forced to hear & implement all those actions which might not make any sense at all, only due to the reason, that someone had it tried & tested, N doesn't let others do the same. That's hypocritical for me. You just cant run everything being bureaucratic. You can't rule over people & decide whether they die or breathe. You ought to & must let people live & do, what they aspire to & strongly feel is right for them at that moment. However, there are on a certain note, so many people who never respect or let others decide n only know to rule or command.

Such people would meet obituary very soon in Life, not 'cos they are weak, but 'cos they would be alone in the crowd. They would seek for company when no one would like to be their companion. They would rot dejected & sad but may be even at that point would not accept opinions of people to set things right...

Beware of such Chameleons...

What More?

Ever wondered, how much of it that you do is valued by people...How much it you don't do is noticed & justifications demanded. Staying up for some one to come home after two days of trip, killing time by watching all the crap on the idiot box, sipping enough liquids to keep up the energy levels, gaping at the watch to see the time, looking at the phone for any news,at last when the actual arrival happens, all seems in vain. Why? An analysis would actually make one feel worse 'cos the possible analogy might be that all this was not expected nor asked for. Thus, all the efforts went in vain with nothing, not even a smile to rest.

An evening of laziness, a weekend of rest, a company well desired, but at times all this seems like only one-sided. One sided 'cos the other person sitting right beside might be far away when it comes to his thoughts & desires. A conversation that begins on a lighter note goes on to a high tone & later to a not so like able mode puts everything in a clumsy scenario.

You tend to realize in the entire course of the listening activity that may be the fingers pointed are all towards you & then you are back to where it all began. You giving some one a light polite advise ended up in you taking it all back with penalty which results in the form of unfavorable language & unacceptable blemishes. I mean, where & how can you ever say it, that I only meant to be showing care not showing a finger. I only meant your goodwill but you took it to be advise. I only wanted your life to be far more wonderful but you felt I didn't care.

An individual to an individual, having a conversation face to face still finding difficult to communicate or put things across as desired. Why, how, what might be the reason, all these questions don't seem to have answers at all. Seems like may be you yourself are the sole person responsible for you to be in a Box which is bound so tightly from outside that you can't even break open.

Not just 'cos you love some one can you just take all that they say as lovable comments or concern. At times,such words painted with sugar balls, hit you harder than any bloody bullet. Some where, you fail to comprehend the puzzles, they forever seem unsolved & complicated.

Can't always say, it's life's way of showing its realities, but being humans I guess we contribute by & large & make it worse by adding on unwanted flavors to it.

Forever & always you wouldn't get some one who could see through you, nor some one who would let you be one who could explain. People are available in this world with so much variety & images that to find the right one or even closer might take a complete life in itself. And, if there is life after death like we have heard, may be another life... All in all.... Your identity would not really matter unless you know that it matters to you the most rather than anybody...true right!!